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I’ve Married Three Times For The Wrong Reasons – Charly Boy
Charles Oputa
Entertainer and activist, Charles Oputa, popularly called Charly
Boy, made the news recently when he announced that he was going to
divorce his wife and marry her the next day. The Area Fada actually
acted true to his words as a marriage ceremony was held in honour of him
and his wife of 40 years, Lady Diane.
Speaking to Saturday Beats about the secret of his marriage of 40
years, Charly Boy noted that his ability to build a healthy friendship
with his wife had kept his home together.
“Marriage is a game of management and perseverance that young
people find difficult to conform to. Life comes with its own problems;
one can never know what is around the corner. Even though a couple is
compatible, there will still be some issues they don’t agree on.
Friendship is what has kept my marriage peaceful.
“When someone is your friend; it will be easy to open up to
such a person. To attain that kind of friendship, there has to be mutual
respect between the two people. Addressing issues with openness makes
life easy, every problem has a solution. I don’t think some young people
are willing to make all these sacrifices. They are always in hurry,
they don’t think about the future.
Oputa, who has been in three failed marriages, said he married the
women he was involved with in those marriages for the wrong reasons.
“I won’t add the conditions of my past marriages to my
experience because my case is a little different. I have always seen my
father and mother together in love even though they quarrelled and
argued overtime. This made a big impression on me, I admired them. I
loved those kinds of things.
“I was not ready for marriage when my first marriage took
place. My mother forced me to get married. I was busy impregnating
people instead of reading my books, so my mother made sure I got married
to curb my excesses as a teenager.
“I was 19, and my mother brought her to me. The second one was
when I was in my 20s, I wasn’t even ready as well, it was just to get
myself settled in the US, but I later realised that the US wasn’t a
place I could settle in. The marriage lasted for about three years, and I
cut my stay in the US short because I experienced racism. I was almost
killed because of the colour of my skin. Those things made me hate
America; my uncles never believed I would return to Nigeria. After the
second marriage failed, I married the third woman in America for the
wrong reason,” he told Saturday Beats.
The entertainer said that he never knew he would be married to his
current wife and he told Saturday Beats the details of his love story.
“This is my fourth marriage; I wasn’t even expecting to marry
my wife. She came one day after we had been dating for a while and told
me that if I didn’t marry her, she would leave me. I thought it was
going to end like the others. We got married shortly after that with
only one witness present at the registry.
“That was all that we did; there was no party at all and we are
still together after 40 years. My parents didn’t even want me to marry
someone who didn’t come from Nigeria. I was just against too many
battles. I decided that my marriage must work. We have learnt how to
manage ourselves through any kind of stormy weather. Marriage is not
easy; I can’t say I am living in paradise because I would be lying.
“The essence of a true marriage is not about a flamboyant
wedding. My father taught me the art of a simple life, I am happier that
way. I used a tricycle to renew my vows because I am a simple person.
Expensive things don’t define me, money doesn’t move me, and I don’t
show off. I was implying that I wanted to renew my vows on December 15;
some people didn’t get the joke. I was not trying to say I would
actually divorce my wife and remarry someone else, I simply meant I
wanted to renew my vows,” he added.
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